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孩子们经历了一系列情绪，当他们的家庭经历了往往是由部署，死亡，离婚，分离，搬迁或失业等重大变化造成的压力源的压力渠道，那些情绪被放大。您和您的员工可能会与家庭体验这些类型压力事件的儿童合作。每个家庭处理压力不同，每个孩子都有独特的需求。尽管如此，您可以使用特定的策略来帮助员工支持儿童。在培训师和教练的帮助下，您的工作是您的工作，以确保工作人员在支持儿童和青年的心理健康的能力方面是有能力和充满信心。

First, you can introduce staff members to the Strengthening Families Protective Factors Framework. This framework is designed to prevent child abuse and neglect, but it is also an excellent way to approach your work with all families. Your program supports children's mental health by strengthening their families. This framework focuses on strengths and promotes overall well-being. While it is beyond the scope of this lesson to completely explain the Protective Factors framework, but you can learn more by visitinghttps://cssp.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/11/Branching-Out-and-Reaching-Deeper.pdf。For now, you can teach staff about the five protective factors that your program should work to support in all families:

出于本课程的目的，我们将专注于弹性。弹性是管理压力和反弹的能力。这对成年人和儿童非常重要。Kenneth Ginsberg博士在广泛地写了关于如何发展和模型弹性以支持军事青年的编写。观看这个视频关于他对“7 C'”的讨论，帮助孩子积极应对军事生活的挑战：http://www.fosteringresilience.com/videos.php。您还可以了解更多关于“7 C”，以便在国际青年基金会的学习资源中建立弹性，The 7 Cs: The Essential Building Blocks of Resilience。

请记住，所有家庭都面临各种压力源和挑战。对于军事家庭来说，部署的共同压力继续在部署结束后长期影响家庭，而服务会员返回家庭。确保工作人员了解部署是一个多阶段的过程。帮助他们理解不同的情绪家庭在部署之前，期间和之后都经过。

将工作人员联系到他们需要完成工作的资源。在您的计划的教练或教练的协助下，支持工作人员，因为他们在部署之前，期间和之后支持家庭的想法。与工作人员沟通，以便他们明白它可以要求帮助。

Supervise & Support

As a manager, you should stay connected to the mental health needs of the children and families in your program. Make sure you know which families are experiencing deployments, divorce, relocation, grief, job loss, or any other major stressors. Create opportunities for these families to connect with one another informally or through support networks on your installation or near your program. Also keep in mind that many of your staff members may experience similar life events. Listen to their concerns and help them find proactive ways to handle their stress.

模型富有同情心，解决问题的方法。让工作人员知道你在那里听他们需要谈话的时间。并让自己提供给家庭。虽然他们可能会与直接与孩子一起工作的工作人员建立最强的关系，但您也可以成为家庭的强大支持资源。倡导倡议，可以通过困难时期帮助您的计划支持儿童，家庭和员工。以下视频演示了一个程序如何有助于弥合已部署的服务成员及其子项之间的距离。

Connecting During Deployment

Caring for children and families experiencing extreme stress can be challenging for even the most seasoned staff member. Watch for signs that a staff member is overwhelmed or experiencing stress themselves. Be prepared to step in and offer support. Read these scenarios on the left and think about how you would respond.

场景	你可能会说......
LaShorage's husband is on his first deployment. She cries every time she thinks about it. She is just not ready to talk to the kids in her class about her emotions and their deployment experiences. Her feelings are too raw.	“Laskorage，我知道你现在正在伤害。我在这里随时谈谈你。让我们慢慢地谈谈。它可能有助于记住你班上的孩子有这些感受。你可以互相帮助谈论它。“
A new parent in your program, Cedric was raised to believe that “boys don’t cry.” He was also taught that it was a sign of weakness to talk about how he was feeling. He tries to understand the lesson his child is learning in your program about emotions, but he really thinks it’s best not to talk about things that are difficult or emotional. He shares with you that he thinks everyone would feel better if they just kept busy.	“Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me, Cedric. I can see that you have done a lot of thinking about this. Because everybody processes things differently, we try to help children understand that all their feelings are OK. Being able to name our emotions is a first step in being able to cope with them. And sometimes it helps to talk things through. When a beloved pet dies, it helps to name emotions like sadness to begin to heal raw feelings. What do you think? I really value your input on this subject.”
Stacey has been a military wife and mother for 20 years. She has been through it all. She can comfort kids, co-workers, moms, and dads. In fact, she has a reputation for being a great person to talk to. People seek her out even after their child leaves your program. She always has a hug for everyone and makes each person feel like they are the only person in the room.	“Stacey，你能与其他教师分享你的一些经历和方法吗？我认为我们都可以从你身上学习和你连接的方式。”

You should also look for signs that staff members are experiencing stress. Watch this video to learn about the signs of stress in caregivers:

Taking Care of Yourself

If you see any of these signs of stress, recognize that a staff member might need extra support from you. Find time to talk. Plan opportunities to relieve stress. Make sure the staff member takes breaks as needed and has the supports they need outside of work.